”I
have a theory. My theory is about moments - Moments of impact.
My
theory is that, these moments of impact, these flashes of high intensity that
completely turn our lives upside down actually end up defining who we are. The
thing is, each one of us is the sum total of every moment that we’ve ever
experienced, with all the people we’ve ever known. It is these moments that
become our history, like our own personal greatest hits of memories that we
play and replay in our mind, over and over again. A moment of total, physical,
mental and every other kind of love.
So
that is my theory, that these moments of impact define who we are. A moment of
impact. A moment of impact has potential for change, has ripple effects far
beyond what we can predict.
Sending
some particles crashing together making them closer than before, while sending
others off into great ventures, ending where you never thought you’d find them.
You see that’s the best thing of moments like these, you can’t, no matter how
hard you try, control how they are going to affect you. You just got to let
these colliding particles land where they may and wait until the next
collision.” The Vow
If you
ever saw the movie - "The Vow" then you
would recognize this extract. If you think about this - it all makes
sense. We all maintain a variety of interpersonal relationships on a daily
basis - so much so that you can classify it as an interpersonal relationship
with each and every one we have contact with.
Some
for a moment and some for a lifetime. And it is these relationships that define
the impact. I for one don't care much for the fleeting kind, I rather invest in
the moment that will last - that is where we find ourselves. What we sometimes
do not realise is this: my defining moment of impact may not be yours thus
creating the social awkwardness that starts to consume one of us. The
difference between who you are and who you really want to be is determined in
what you are doing about it now. So...in the words already spoken:
"If
you stay, stay forever.
If you
go, do it today.
If you
change, change for the better.
And if
you talk, make sure you mean what you say. "
